I wrote the other day about how disappointed I felt in myself for not following through with some things I wanted to do last year. The biggest one for me by far was not making the time to sit down and share with my boys things that I felt would be helpful to them in their walk with Christ. There were a few books that really impacted me, books that deal with this crazy upside down culture and our role as Jesus-followers in it. If you have kids, you know the feeling: I want them to get this! I want them to understand this! If they can just see through all this nonsense to the truth… maybe they won’t fall for the lies… maybe they will be different…
I spend a lot of time floundering around in the sad reality that we live in a world that is basically amusing itself to death, sacrificing everything meaningful for superficial ‘likes’ and virtual approval from total strangers. This isn’t the world I grew up in and it’s hard for me to relate to how deeply this affects them sometimes. The things I struggled with seem like small potatoes compared to what my kids have already seen first-hand. You Tube influencers confound me. Idol-worship of people so completely in love with themselves makes me cringe. The absence of the ability to think for themselves scares me. G.K. Chesterton said, “We shall soon be in a world in which a man may be howled down for saying that two and two make four, in which people will persecute the heresy of calling a triangle a three-sided figure, and hang a man for maddening a mob with news that the grass is green.” We are there, and sometimes I feel like an eighty year old grandmother who can’t adjust to the times. The reality though, is that I am a Jesus-follower and a parent who is charged with discipling two young men in a world turned inside-out. The reality is that God never changes, even when culture does. The truth is, in the past I have let it overwhelm me to the point of inaction. It’s so much easier to just cruise on through the days, dealing with things as they come, but never really being intentional about getting to the heart of it all. What’s that old saying? “The days are long but the years are short.” It’s true. Suddenly I have a high schooler. In a moment he will be out on his own. A minute after that, his brother will follow. What do I want them to hear from me before they go? We spend our time doing the best we can, telling them what not to do, lecturing them on the dangers that lurk behind every corner, but are we giving them something to actually live for?
Proverbs 29:18 says “Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint.” We have to have a vision from God, something positive and promising to go after, if we are going to really live. Without it, we just run wild without any direction or intent. This explains why “good” kids do really dumb things. Adults too, for that matter.
So this morning, I decided to just get going. I sat down and began a little folder for each of my boys. I don’t really have a well thought out plan, and that’s ok. The problem I encountered last year is that I had so much I wanted to share, I didn’t share anything. I couldn’t organize my thoughts, so I did nothing. Today, I started with this verse and a C.S. Lewis essay called “Men Without Chests” about how head knowledge is no match for the unbridled passions in our belly that override our reason. We need a chest to help the head rule the belly. Strong men know how to keep the fire in the belly from burning down the house. Seemed like something good for young men to hear. I crudely typed out some thoughts, printed them out and stuck it in a folder for each of them. I boldly asked for 20 minutes of their time, which in a world where online games rule the day, is a bigger deal than it may seem. We started. They were mildly interested, and that’s ok. I hope we can build on it.
We put too much pressure on getting things just right before we start anything and we wind up doing nothing. I liken our time today to the first time a person exercises in awhile… kind of a hot mess, but better than nothing. Little moments of faithfulness every day, like exercise or a good daily vitamin, is worth far more than sporadic moments here and there. I have a vision based on God’s promises and that gives me hope that we can grow together in His wisdom. It’s never too late. There will be eye rolls along the way to be sure, there will be dramatic whining and bad attitudes at times, and that’s ok. It won’t be perfect, but with time and faithfulness, I hope that they can have a prophetic vision all their own to keep chasing after.
folders are a great idea—just add as it pops in your head…then make time each day to look at one thing in the folder…to read it, share it, look at and or talk about it—then have a small prayer afterward for thanking Jesus for spending time with “us” during this time of sharing…
The book I’m reading based on C.S Lewis’s novel That Hideous Strength is very prophetic…in a very scary way.
I do so worry about our kids and grandkids entering this brave and frightening world!
Thank you! It is daunting… thankfully we know who is in charge!
“We put too much pressure on getting things just right before we start anything and we wind up doing nothing.” Yes. We need to begin. That is my chronic problem – failure to begin! However, if I do begin, I finish (the majority of the time). I do know people with the opposite problem – they constantly start all kinds of things but rarely finish anything.
That’s true… we do often start and not finish… I agree, my issue is just getting the ball rolling!
Shara, I enjoyed this as a memory from so many years ago. Guess which of your words caught my attention? “sometimes I feel like an eighty year old grandmother who can’t adjust to the times” How about an eighty-year-old great-grandmother who does not adjust to the times, but goes with the flow of what the Lord has planned? Your concerns are the concerns I experienced at your age. At my age, through the ages, stages, and phases, the Lord has proven He is the principal of our school, and all our intentions. He answers our prayers and intentions, though our family does not understand who we are and what we do. I praise Him that He is working in your heart to bring your children up in the nurture and admonition of Him. Nothing will be wasted. Thank HIm that He has made you a keeper-at-home in His stead. He will not fail you. Blessings in your endeavor to please Him, not your children.:)
Love and appreciate this… thank you so much!!
Love and appreciate you. Blessings.
Way to go for starting! And the best way is just as you stated, “little moments of faithfulness every day”.
Thanks! Step by step! 🙂